Re: Hurricane Bertha

JosephKK wrote:
On Mon, 14 Jul 2008 09:03:07 -0700, Joerg
<notthisjoergsch@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

JosephKK wrote:
On Sun, 13 Jul 2008 09:25:05 -0700, Joerg
<notthisjoergsch@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:

bill.sloman@xxxxxxxx wrote:
[...]

Right wig commentators make a great fuss about the "dependency
culture" which is a myth, and ignore the damage done to the children
of the poor by inadequatesocial security.

I have seen dependency or entitlement mentality first hand in the Netherlands. Kids saying openly "Why should I apply for a job? Then I have less money in my pocket that I do on welfare. It would be stupid." That did it for me and I packed my bags.
Not much help really, i am seeing it now in US youth. Where would you
go now?

Yeah, I also see that here. The problem are more the parents though, pampering their kids like you wouldn't believe.


Not just that, it is cultural, more extensive and pervasive than the
average parent can cope with. It is even hugely challenging to very
good parents. I have many good friends with troubled teens.


Same here. But when you watch really closely you can detect where and how the family structures have already fallen apart even in affluent families. A classic example where I saw trouble coming (and boy did it come):

a. They don't eat dinner as a family.
b. Kids constantly on cell phone or in front of TV.
c. Kids tune out surroundings, don't even recognize who visits.
d. Parents don't really know how kids feel.
e. No family trips on weekends.
f. No religious beliefs.
g. No planning.
h. Kids never participate in chores.
i. ... and so on.

[...]

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