Re: Several pages of calendar need translation

I think that's the funniest response/post I've seen in this whole
thing, John.

Not sure how to respond. Sounds like a bunch of self-righteous fellas
talking who've never been through an affair being had at their expense.

Ben, maybe you've hit the nexus of our disagreement. You view my
statements as "feelings' that need to be discussed. Not feeling,
Ben... suspicions. And, rather well founded from what I've figured
out. Still, it seems no matter who you are, before you make an
accusation, you have to find out the facts first - that is what I am
trying to do.

Your statement about photos - stupid comment? Contradictory to
everything I've already written. How? 1. Photos would be proof! Why
then would I post them? To ask you "Hey, Ben, is this my wife? Can
you look at these photos and tell me if that's my wife or not?"
C'mon... be serious. And of course, not to mention... THAT would be a
violation of her privacy AND anonymouty.

And, your'e married and you don't understand my anguish and heart-ache.
Certainly... not with the logic that you've just displayed.

Allan, not sure what "trolling" means. But, it sounds like you agree
with Ben in that a). When a man has strong suspicions that a wife is
cheating, his only recourse is to talk to her, and any other imaginable
action would be "ungentlemanly".

Sean - You are probably closest to an accurate summary here in this
whole thing - me included. Look, I know she cheated on me. There's
just too much evidence. I admit, I don't know how to go about handling
this. Heck, I lost about 20 lbs weight when I figured it out. And the
knowledge is tearing me apart. I don't know whether to trust her or
not anymore. I don't know what kind of influence she'll have on our
kids. I know the relationship ended with this other guy, but I haven't
been able to restore our relationship to what it was before her affair.
Since I can't figure out how to do that... then like you say, maybe
the relation ship is burnt toast.

Don, How can you come ot the conclusion that I am controlling and
abusive simply because I want to find out if my wife cheated on me or
not? I do not follow your logic at all to where in any of my writing
that I gave any indication of that.

To all... man, you guys are judgemental for never having walked in my
shoes. Nice to sit on your clean seats up there in the stratosphere
and look down on me. Sorry, but I never read the instruction guide for
how to handle a broken marriage.

John, your post was the most entertaining. I'm wondering, what would
you say if you contacted her. "Ma'am, your husband suspects you of
cheating on him. Of all the nerve. How could he do such a thing!
Your husband is a rat."

Again, I've asked before - How would each of YOU handle it if your wife
cheated on you? Or, how many of you are married? How many of you are
over the age of 30? how many of you have kids? Again, I don't know
how to handle it. But, the only suggestion I've recieved is "You
should sit down and discuss your "feelings"" is the only thought out
there, however unintelligent that may be?!


John J. Chew III wrote:
In article <2007010817530843658-sean@fakecom>, Sean <sean@xxxxxxxx> wrote:
The above is the bloody truth. If this guy isn't trolling us, then he
is being ungentlemanly in a much worse way.

I think we've been as helpful as we can; if he asks for more, we should
draw straws to see who contacts his wife.

John
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