Re: Doctors who Buy Supplements -- Big Time

From: J (lawz_at_anon.inv)
Date: 02/11/05 

Date: Fri, 11 Feb 2005 13:55:38 -0500

"Ma¢k " wrote:

> My nerves on the subject are a bit raw at the moment. I watched my
> birth mother suffer and die because of cancer going through multiple
> surgeries, chemo and radiation until she died. By the time the docs
> actually diagnosed the cancer and started doing something about it, it
> had already spread and they were basically just trying to extend her
> life.

I'm sorry to hear about your mothers. Unfortunately not everyone can be saved.
I lost my mother to lung cancer and my uncle to colon cancer (some years ago) and
my cousin to melanoma last year.
My grandfather was elderly and decided no treatment for his cancer.
He still enjoyed a very good quality of life up until about a year before he
passed away, after his wife, my grandma, died.
I suspect he passed away from other causes, not the cancer.

Apparently some of the people (involved in your mother's treatment) never heard
of Steph's "Questions to Ask" http://tinyurl.com/vh34

> Now my foster mother is going through chemo after her cancer surgery.
> She has two aneurysms that still need to be repaired, she got an
> infection in one of the breasts because of the lumpectomy. The day of
> chemo is not all that bad for her, she get's sick the day after.
>
> People are walking on eggshells around me. I am stressed out and
> angry. I am praying that they got everything and the chemo does it's
> job. I am angry that she has to go through this. This is an
> incredible woman who has helped to turn my life around. I can't allow
> myself to think of what might happen without it freaking me out. I am
> also angry that I am allowing this to affect "me" in this way when she
> is the one going through it.

I hope this post helped you de-stress a bit.
Others around you (like your foster mother) could be feeling your stress and
anger too and apparently stress is not a good thing for aneurysms. Someone can
be here for you on any of the 3 cancer newsgroups
alt.support.cancer
alt.support.cancer.breast
sci.med.diseases.cancer
If it's a vent, rather than wanting input, just put "Vent" in the subject line.
Although some of us are inclined to express opinions anyway :-) or that could be
:-(

> I was so tired from lack of sleep last Friday that I forgot to check
> and take an extra insulin pen with me to work. I didn't have enough
> to last me the whole night. I work 12.5 hour shifts. So I did my
> rounds and when I completed them and some extra tasks I told the
> supervisor that I needed to take a few minutes and run home to get
> some meds I forgot. He said Okay. So I left. When I got back he
> jumped all over my case and said that he didn't know I was asking to
> leave the property. I was only gone for 15 minutes. It takes longer
> than that to go to 7-11 on a lunch break. He said he only heard me
> say that I was stepping out for a few minutes. Meaning step outside.
> I tried to explain to him it was just a misunderstanding and that I
> would make sure it did not happen again. He sent a written complaint
> to our department head and included things that did not happen and
> things I did not say. Monday morning I got chewed out by the
> department head and was told to submit a written statement of my
> version of the events.
>
> I'll find out this coming monday if I still have a job their.

I understand. For a number of reasons.
I've snipped the rest.

A friend of mine has a giant aneuysm. She's in Canada and was told 2 months to
wait for the surgery.
And not to go back to work due to the physical stress due to her type of work
and/or side effects of the medicines she has to be on, in the interim, and/or
seizures being caused by the aneurysm. When she went to pick up the paperwork to
obtain temporary financial relief, her boss had the attitude "you look fine to
me, get to work". And so, I can sympathize with you about uncaring employers.

It's only because she remembered that she'd met a neurosurgeon years before, who
knew a specialist who, as it turned out, decided he could do the procedure on her
earlier, that the surgery (coiling?) is planned for, IIRC, for next week.
You sound like a survivor. Best wishes with the employment issues.

Thank you for your post. I will think of you and your mother and family often.

J

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