A sad day

From: Anne Vasquez (annevasquez_at_NOSPAMhotmail.com)
Date: 08/02/04 

Date: Mon, 02 Aug 2004 05:27:59 GMT

This has got to be the stormiest day I've had thus far in my life. I
received a call from my SIL earlier, telling me that my husband (from
whom I've been separated for almost 2 years) was found dead in Tucson.
They don't know the cause of death yet; the story I've been given thus
far is that he was extremely intoxicated and drank a poisonous
substance, mistaking it for his beer. (??? What the ...??!) He died
almost a week ago, and his family just found out. My SIL says there are
details that I REALLY don't want to know and refused to tell me any
more. She's supposed to call me tomorrow, after they've positively
identified him and talked further with the police. The thought of him
dying in terrible pain is absolutely tearing me apart.

Neither of my daughters is here. My older daughter is en route from
California and should be here Tuesday or Wednesday. My younger daughter
is out of state with friends and won't be back until Tuesday night. I
don't know how I'm going to tell them this!!! My heart is just
breaking, for all of us.

I didn't leave this man because I didn't love him anymore; love was
never a problem between us, but there were other issues that made it
impossible for me to stay. I know leaving was the best thing I could
have done, really the ONLY thing I could do. There was no way I could
have fixed his life for him, or even help him do it. Didn't stop me
from loving him, though, crazy or not, and I can't even describe the
feelings I'm having now. I'm amazed at the level of grief after almost
2 years of separation, although since we spent 21 years together, maybe
I shouldn't be so surprised. Still, I feel sort of hypocritical - after
all, I DID leave him. Between the grief I feel personally and knowing
how much this is going to hurt my girls, I'm beside myself. What am I
going to say to them? I don't think they need every ugly detail, but
how much do they need to know? I'm just reeling and am very grateful
for a day or two to try to figure out how to break this to them. I just
can't believe he's not still walking the earth somewhere, even if I
don't know where he is. He was an ass sometimes, but we also had a lot
of really good years together. Damn, damn, damn, what a colossal waste!!!

Thanks for "listening" to me - I really needed someone to "talk" to tonight.

Anne

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