Re: A sad day

From: Anne Carle (acarle_at_munge.com)
Date: 08/02/04 

Date: Mon, 02 Aug 2004 09:45:05 GMT

I'm so sorry, Anne! You and your family are in my prayers.

Anne/OH

On Mon, 02 Aug 2004 05:27:59 GMT, Anne Vasquez
<annevasquez@NOSPAMhotmail.com> wrote:

>This has got to be the stormiest day I've had thus far in my life. I
>received a call from my SIL earlier, telling me that my husband (from
>whom I've been separated for almost 2 years) was found dead in Tucson.
>They don't know the cause of death yet; the story I've been given thus
>far is that he was extremely intoxicated and drank a poisonous
>substance, mistaking it for his beer. (??? What the ...??!) He died
>almost a week ago, and his family just found out. My SIL says there are
>details that I REALLY don't want to know and refused to tell me any
>more. She's supposed to call me tomorrow, after they've positively
>identified him and talked further with the police. The thought of him
>dying in terrible pain is absolutely tearing me apart.
>
>Neither of my daughters is here. My older daughter is en route from
>California and should be here Tuesday or Wednesday. My younger daughter
>is out of state with friends and won't be back until Tuesday night. I
>don't know how I'm going to tell them this!!! My heart is just
>breaking, for all of us.
>
>I didn't leave this man because I didn't love him anymore; love was
>never a problem between us, but there were other issues that made it
>impossible for me to stay. I know leaving was the best thing I could
>have done, really the ONLY thing I could do. There was no way I could
>have fixed his life for him, or even help him do it. Didn't stop me
>from loving him, though, crazy or not, and I can't even describe the
>feelings I'm having now. I'm amazed at the level of grief after almost
>2 years of separation, although since we spent 21 years together, maybe
>I shouldn't be so surprised. Still, I feel sort of hypocritical - after
>all, I DID leave him. Between the grief I feel personally and knowing
>how much this is going to hurt my girls, I'm beside myself. What am I
>going to say to them? I don't think they need every ugly detail, but
>how much do they need to know? I'm just reeling and am very grateful
>for a day or two to try to figure out how to break this to them. I just
>can't believe he's not still walking the earth somewhere, even if I
>don't know where he is. He was an ass sometimes, but we also had a lot
>of really good years together. Damn, damn, damn, what a colossal waste!!!
>
>Thanks for "listening" to me - I really needed someone to "talk" to tonight.
>
>Anne

Anne/OH
"I don't know half of you half as well as I should like, and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve." -Bilbo Baggins -

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