Re: How To Care For Your Man

Vickie,

Did I read correctly earlier that he has trouble making decisions? If so, you might give my method a try.

I was almost 22 and Martha was 19. I was considering marriage, but hadn't really talked to her about it. I took a plain white *** of paper and drew a line down the middle. For the next 2 weeks I wrote down every reason that came to mind for getting married on one side of that line and all the reasons for not getting married on the other. At the end of that time, the pros greatly outnumbered the cons, so I went and got an engagement ring. Very romantic, huh?

I had a plan. My roommate was going out of town for the weekend, and I would have the apartment to myself. I would give her the ring, and we would go to the apartment to "celebrate." I gave her the ring one night when I picked her up for a date. I was all ready to head for the apartment, but she wanted to go up and down Main Street to show all her friends her ring! We never made it to the apartment.

Neal

RaeMorrill wrote:
Have you flat out asked him about getting married and why? If not, might be all it takes.

VickieHerndonCMT wrote:

It's the social security thing...the social security thing. ;) I have no clue WHY that is so important to me, but for some reason it is, as well as other things that could go to the state rather than to me that are important, like a lake home, etc. I doubt he even has a Will. I know I am beneficiary on his life insurance through his work, but still, if distant relatives wanted to contest that, they would probably win because they are family.

Again, I think I have my head in the grave after the cancer thing earlier in the year and still having the health issues going on that are going to continuously plague me and have to be followed closely the rest of my life, and he has mortality issues too with some health problems that have developed over the past several years that are difficult for him to face.

I guess it is not a major thing, but peace of mind is big with me in my everyday life, particularly right now. I am under a TREMENDOUS amount of monetary stress at the moment that I have not had to deal with before due to illness.

<im1whalen@xxxxxxx> wrote in message news:1118286333.126668.116900@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I seem to stay mad at him all the time because 


he just floats through life not thinking of the future <<<<

Why would marrying him give you any kind of security then? Aside from
the fact that you would be able to make decisions for and about him -
what will you gain from the legal union that you don't already have?




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