Re: OT: 16 Children


"JulieW8" <seemysig@xxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
news:43502568.11657092@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
> On Fri, 14 Oct 2005 15:49:10 -0400, "Sandi" <sanditypes@xxxxxxxxx>
> gave thanks and said:
>
>>I'm sure she is. I don't think you understand where I'm coming from, at
>>all. I believe a woman should stay home if she wants to, and home school
>>if
>>she wants to, and so on and so forth. I even believe a woman should have
>>more than the average number of kids if she wants to. What bothers me is
>>essentially creating your own separatist sort of compound. What bothers
>>me
>>is ostracizing these children from society, when they have no choice in
>>the
>>matter. When asked whether her older children ever resent being full time
>>workers, the mother answered, "They don't know anything else." I find
>>that
>>sad. I will continue to find it sad. It doesn't mean I don't support
>>anyone's right to live the way they want to. I just don't think the
>>children are going to have that same right, because, as she said, they
>>don't
>>know anything else. I think it's sad when she says that there is a big
>>joint closet and children wear whatever fits. I don't think these young
>>women will grow up knowing that they have the opportunity be be attorneys.
>>If they knew that, and chose to be full-time mothers, that would be
>>wonderful.
>
> What article/video am I missing? I can't find anything that says these
> kids have been compounded or isolated. I don't understand how you
> reach the conclusion you're coming to.
>
> IMO, it's no different than raising kids with religious beliefs. Are
> you advocating that parents don't pass their values and morals on to
> their children?
>
>
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The children, even teenagers, are under their parents' control 24/7 (which
many people, I'm sure, think is a good thing: I don't). The mother has
stated that "they don't know anything else." Their days are extremely
structured. They have no say even in what they wear. And I grew up with
children who looked like them and appeared to be raised in the same manner,
although back them homeschooling wasn't heard of much, so they did attend
public school, and I saw the girls deferring sickeningly to the boys even at
a very young age.

Honestly, no. If your religious beliefs include limiting your child in the
ways that I believe these children will be limited, then no, I don't think
it's right. Absolutely they have the constitutional right, if they aren't
abusing them, to raise their children however they see fit. I certainly
don't think laws should prevent it, but I don't think it's morally right to
impose your absolute will on another human being, without allowing that
person to know anything else, or hear of anything else, even if that human
being is your own child. Therefore, it makes me sad. It doesn't make me
say they should be taken away, or the people are evil, or anything like
that. But it sure doesn't make me think they should celebrated in the way
the media seems to be celebrating them of late. I looked at the children,
particularly the older ones, while their parents were being interviewed
today. They were certainly well-behaved, but those older girls looked
something very very far from happy.

Sandi


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