Re: The elephant is in the room. Want to discuss it?
- From: vanessa <vanessa.23wq6h@xxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Mon, 27 Feb 2006 14:50:58 -0600
Even if the women in this group have not had an unwanted pregnancy, to
say that men can understand the abortion issue as well as WE understand
it is wrong.
Men never have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy in the way that
women do.
How many men fear rape and take precautions to avoid it the way we do?
How many men have to consider carrying an unwanted child for 9 months?
How many men wonder what will happen to them and their children if Mom
walks out on the family? There are some, yes, but in terms of a
father-to-mother ratio, how many men worry about this?
How many men struggle along as single parents compared with women?
How many young men who have unprotected sex during spring break on
Florida beaches (I am using this as an example because it's an annual
event) worry about impregnating the fairly anonymous girl they pick up
for the night? For that matter, who is more likely to demand
protection, the male or the female?
How many mothers/sisters/daughters impregnate their family members?
How do men understand these issues the way that we do? They are not
the ones who are threatened by them. They are not the ones who walk
with their keys pointed outward in parking lots, and who check the back
seat before opening the car door. They are not the ones who are afraid
to walk through underground parking lots at night because they could be
raped. Men do not-cannot!--understand what it is like to go through
life on high alert. They cannot understand the fear women feel when
they hear that a friend has been left with four kids to support, or
that a man has skipped on child support. Men do NOT get it any more
than they get menopause. They are on the outside looking in, just as
we are when it comes to how men feel about erectile dysfunction.
I used to think that men should have some input about abortion. I am
not so sure about that now. Maybe in the case of a family unit or a
long-term couple, or if a man is willing to sign on as the sole parent
and support after the child is gone, there could be some input. But I
wonder how much say they would let US have if they had to bear the
children.
I have another question for those who say NO ABORTION. If you had a
daughter in the military, and she was raped in Iraq and came home with
a belly full of the enemy, would you expect her to keep that child?
You see, there are so many variables that have to be considered when
you say you do not agree with abortion under any circumstances. As
outlandish as some of the possible scenarios are, you have to examine
how you feel about them before you can state that you do not believe in
any abortion, ever. Although I am not pro-choice in the sense that I do
not agree with abortions being give out by prescription, I do \"get it\"
and I am unwilling to judge the women who have to resort to termination.
--
vanessa
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