Re: OT: THE MURDERESS, ANDREA YATES IN HOUSTON, TEXAS

RaeMorrill wrote:

I can certainly easily believe having that many kids could send you over
the edge. If you're already unstable and really do not want kids and are
forced by sicko beliefs and husband to keep it up for fear of angering
God.... Even if he didn't ever think she might kill them, he certainly
knew they were in danger otherwise. That doesn't make it any better.


Phyllis Nilsson wrote:
Sandi wrote:


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Blupencl wrote:


Now HE needs frying. :( He killed those kids - she didn't. His
ignorance and WHATEVER that was killed his kids and, in effect, killed
her too. :(



Fortunately, at least in this country, ignorance of how to handle a
psychotic wife isn't grounds for labeling a man a killer. If her
psychiatrists couldn't help her, I her husband had sufficient knowledge
to
help her either. And that last time I heard, it takes two to have
babies. To assume he forced her into it really reaching beyond what
anyone knows about their lives together.
--
Toledo,Ohio


I'm referring not to having the children, although to continue to breed a
completely debilitated woman into complete insanity is certainly
horrible, but to leaving 5 children alone with a woman who he had reason
to know was
unstable. By his own admission, he had that knowledge.

Sandi


I agree she was unstable and he knew it. I just don't believe that, had
he known she was capable of murdering their children, he would have left
her alone with them.

Then again, finding daycare for five children for every day of every week
is
probably more expensive than most people could handle. I can't see that
anyone in the home with her (to watch the children) would have been safe
from her either, especially if she "thought" they were trying to keep her
from doing what she felt she needed to do to those poor children. H

Hindsight is 20/20, but I just can't see that he is a killer; ignorant,
overwhelmed, limited in income yes, but not responsible for his wife's
actions. I don't believe any woman can be made totally insane from
having
children (although my children may differ). Certainly it wouldn't help
the
situation, but I sincerely doubt it created it for her. I believe there
had to be something underlying all this long before she ever got married
or
became pregnant. It is just a shame she wasn't kept in a mental
institution before she killed them instead of after.

My question then is, what would you have done in his place? I'm sure there
was no money to put five children in day care if he already had to work
overtime to put a roof over their heads and food on the table.

No one would come into a home to watch children if the wife is so psychotic
she is a danger to people, and he would have had to notify the caregiver of
that aspect of her personality.

He certainly didn't have the money to hire a nurse to be with her all day
and make sure she took meds while he was at work.

He couldn't very well quit his job to stay home and be with her and the
children or there would have been seven more mouths on the dole that
someone would complain about because he was certainly healthy enough to
work.

Before anyone finds fault with his choices, they could certainly come up
with what they would have done in the same circumstances.

--
Toledo,Ohio

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