seeking information

I'm asking for a friend. I'm hoping somebody here has some resources that I
missed.

Parents still alive in their 80s. Mother is relatively healthy, but father
is in the early stages of dementia (mostly tends to forget to close doors).
They only have social security ($1450/month), plus about 25% of that goes to
pay medical bills. They don't qualify for Medicaid because their social
security is too high. However, they can longer afford to live on their own.

They have three adult children, all sons. One son is single and stationed
overseas. Another son is married with a teenager. His wife has told him
emphatically that his parents cannot live with them, plus they really don't
have any room. The third son and his wife (this is my friend) live in a
small apartment (about 900 sq ft). The parents don't like his wife, and she
doesn't like them. He visits his parents at least twice a month, but the
only time his wife sees them is during the holidays, and the wife and
parents always stress each other out (sometimes that happens, no matter how
hard you try). Plus, the father is a heavy smoker and will NOT quit smoking,
but my friend has a touch of asthma, so she can't be around cigarette smoke.

The adult children have discussed assisted living for their parents, but
it's anywhere form $1500-3000 per month, depending upon what they get. None
of them can afford this, even if they combine their earnings.

If checked into different options but I can't find a solution to my friend's
problem. Are there ANY viable suggestions on this?


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