Re: It's not just the 30% (This *is* my real life.)

From: Sarah Vaughan (NannyOgg_at_samael.demon.co.uk)
Date: 10/09/04 

Date: Sat, 9 Oct 2004 19:24:14 +0100

In message <CQb9d.8449$M05.3562@newsread3.news.pas.earthlink.net>, Todd
Gastaldo <tgastaldo@earthlink.net> writes
>Mamma Mia wrote:

>> todd - do you think about anything else other than the 30% and cord
>> clamping! how do you get anyting done in yoru RL?!!!
>>
>
>Remember, I am a doctor of chiropractic. It is every chiro's job to
>save tiny lives and tiny limbs and PREVENT that which chiro's charge to
>treat - or that's the way it is supposed to work.
>
>I am finding out - years later - that in real life/RL it doesn't work
>that way.
>
>I am a slow learner.
>
>It has taken a long time - but it is finally dawning on me that I may
>not be able - in my lifetime - to stop OBs from closing birth canals
>and gruesomely (sometimes fatally) manipulating most babies' spines.
>
>Stated from the perspective of preventing the putative chiropractic
>lesion...
>
>It may not be possible - in my lifetime - to PREVENT more putative
>vertebral subluxations than DCs will ever be able to adjust by hand.
>
>I may have grossly misjudged how real life works - sad but true.

Todd, I think your real problem is that you're grossly misjudging what
sort of approach is likely to get people to listen to you. The way you
rant on about things makes you come across as a total quack. Which is
sad, because I actually agree with the whole idea of getting women off
their backs to give birth. What I don't agree with is the idea that
posting the same rant over and over to total strangers, complete with
CAPITAL LETTERS and exclamation marks, gets them to listen to you. What
usually happens is that they dismiss you as a kook.

Remember that time when you looked up all my details on the Internet and
found out where I worked (and I'd _still_ love to know how you did that
- I know it's all on there somewhere, but just how long did it take you
to find my name on that website, fer cryin' out loud? When I try typing
my name into Google, all I get is pages and pages about the jazz
singer!) and e-mailed everyone there who sounded as if they were even
vaguely in a position of authority to ask them whether I was protesting
the behaviour of OBs in this regard? It didn't even occur to you - did
it? - that this sort of thing is verging on stalking, and that people
who read it are just going to dismiss you as a total kook without even
reading what you have to say.

And, as for why I don't barge into the local maternity ward, banner in
hand, protesting the CLOSING OF BIRTH CANALS BY UP TO 30% - it's not
because I disagree with your cause, but because nobody particularly
listens to people who do that. The way to go about something like that
is to get yourself in a situation where people _might_ listen to you,
then find out how people actually _are_ doing things (did it even
fleetingly occur to you that maybe the midwives in my area aren't
actually doing anything of the sort and _do_ try to get women off their
backs during second stage? I don't know, and neither do you), and
_then_ venture the suggestion that there might be a better way to do
things. This doesn't guarantee you'll get listened to, but it's a
considerably better bet.

All the best,

Sarah 

-- 
"I once requested an urgent admission for a homeopath who had become depressed
and taken a massive underdose" - Phil Peverley

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